20121031

The zen of barefoot running

I like these quotes which I found here.

And forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare feet and the winds long to play with your hair.’ ~Kahlil Gibran


Empty-handed I entered the world
Barefoot I leave it.
My coming, my going –
Two simple happenings
That got entangled.
~ Kozan Ichikyo

20121028

Les Misérables


I have just finished reading (the English translation of) Les Misérables. When I say "reading" I have to admit that I left out vast tracts. Like the introduction to the bishop and the in-depth description of the Paris sewer system and similar backdrops which occupy many chapters. Fortunately it is fairly easy to gloss through such without missing the core plot.

I was very impressed, touched by the portrayal of the character of Jean Valjean, especially the ending. Such nuances are lost in the films and the musical. I find myself quite unable to express what I want to say: I stand in amazement at those who can express themselves so well in words and convey in anonymous generality personal issues that must not be spoken about.



20121027

Corriebracks barefoot

My intention was to climb Church Mountain. There actually was a church on the top of Church Mountain. It is only a pile of stones now - you can just make this out in my photograph.

Church Mountain from Corriebracks
The last time I climbed Church Mountain was a long time ago - when my children were children. I have memories of climbing it in snow, little Kate with little welly boots on that were not as high as the snow was deep, and having to carry her...

My plan was to head for Corriebracks and then just nudge over to Church Mountain which is just next door. But they have grown a forest on the side of Church Mountain since I was there last, and I could not find any tracks going that direction, and it was cold (frost on the grass), and I was getting tired, and I was barefoot. So I did what I never do. After reaching the end of the trail which was almost at the peak of Corriebracks I retraced my steps.  These pictures were taken from almost the highest point I reached.

Home is sort of in the middle somewhere

Hollywood is behind the bump in the centre

Looking towards the summit (and Meg)
In all the run was about 13 miles. I admit I walked a bit on the ascent. I took my GPS and recorded my track, only it took the device the first mile to get a fix, and then lost it for a while on the way down from Corriebracks.  The statistics are:

12.4 miles (plus almost a mile not tracked at the beginning)
4.7 mph average speed
10 mph maximum speed (that's a lie)
594m elevation change
558m maximum elevation
234m minimum elevation

So, it qualifies as a half marathon and a mountain (albeit a liddly one).  My very first half marathon and barefoot to boot.

On the way back, Moanbane in the distance

The magenta part was tracked by GPS, the green part is the first mile or so
Oh, and the way back was hard work - I kinda got slower and slower. And dreamt of hot cups of tea and hot showers and cheese and onions crisps. But I live to tell the tale and my feet live also.  And I think Meg does too though I have not checked up on her.



20121020

Devil's Glen

We have often driven past the Devil's Glen on the way to Wicklow Town so, spurred on by our relatives Tony and Margaret who stayed with us and went there, I decided to "do" it.

I cycled over the Wicklow Gap, through Laragh and Annamoe, and parked the 'bike at the top of the hill at the point circled in the map. I half walked, half ran down the track to the car park near the river and then followed the "red" route up the river until it ended at the waterfall. Because there is a rule that prohibits going back the same way as I came, and since the path came to an end here, the only option was to scale the steep  side of the valley. I was, of course, barefoot. My trusty GPS guided me through a thick plantation until I met a forestry track. Thus I circumvented Tiglin, for those of you who know what that is.

Trip statistics: 55 miles, maximum speed 41.7mph (that'll be the descent from the Sally Gap), average speed 11.4mph, fuel: one lump of cheese and some chocolate.  Plus the walk which, according to Google Earth, was just over 4 miles.

Map courtesy of Ordnance Survey Ireland
A film set

Looking down over the property our family calls "the Secret Garden"

First view of the Vartry river



There are strange sculptures along the way


This is the beginning (or the ending?) of the waterfall

The waterfall at the end of the trail. I apologize for the way my Htc Desire  over-exposes

The is the waterfall the other way around

Back over the Sally Gap

The Liffey valley - I love these trees

These guys were stopping to take photos too

The Htc camera does not do justice to the beauty of this place



I stopped here because this is one of my enchanted places


St John's church


Hmm... in the exposed spot is the only view I could get of the mound... Perhaps it is an aura caused by the enchantment!

A deep channel on the other side of the bridge

You can walk under the bridge

These people, and another guy were avidly taking photos and agreed with me that "there is something special about this place.





20121014

Lynton to Salisbury

Last night I was looking through some old files and came across an itinerary I had typed prior to a walking holiday back in college days. My comrades were Neil Mapley and Mike Attwood. I remember Neil chortling over my terse description of the giant at Cerne Abbas "A 180 FT tall naked man with club. 1500 yrs old".

Itinerary - click to enlarge.

We were in principle youth hostelling, but there was no YH near to our course across Exmoor so we knocked up a likely looking farmhouse and were treated royally.  Breakfast was a family affair around a huge table with all the farm hands.  It was a regular Enid Blyton breakfast with oodles of everything imaginable and a HUGE bowl of clotted cream in the middle of the table which everyone put on everything - cerials, toast, eggs and bacon, you name it. Possibly the best breakfast I have ever indulged in.

I remember also stopping at Chard. I think we diverted there because Neil needed to go to communion as he had recently become Catholic and that's what Catholics have to do. We couldn't find a Catholic church so had to make do with a High Anglican Church and we all joined him - it was quite the performance with bells and smells and the assistance cleric grovelling on his knees. He reminded me in looks and actions of the Grand Vizier in ""To hear is to obey," said the Vizier, wriggling himself round a little so as to get his hinder parts further away from Rabadash's toe" (The Horse and his Boy, Lewis).

Here in Chard we stayed overnight in a questionable tavern, not being able to find anything better. We were told we could rough it in the attic room, but that this room actually belonged to a lodger. They told us he would probably arrive drunk around midnight, but would not mind us sharing his room (there were not enough beds for all four of us so we had to share which posed another challenge). After bedding ourselves we waited in trepidation for the worst, but in the event the chap turned out to be quite agreeable. Breakfast next morning was not so agreeable, however - insufficiently cooked bacon and eggs literally floating on a sea of grease...

The giant at Cerne Abbas did not disappoint - it was truly amazing!

In the rare event that anyone is that interested here is a link to map segments I have downloaded that show the approximate route based on the above itinerary.


My father

Why post about "my father"? Because I want to honour him. Because I want to try to explain what made him tick and to comment on the events in his later life which evoked so much criticism. Because he was my dad and I am his progeny.

I have lived many years in Ireland insulated by distance from these events and yet such things leave a deep impression that does not wholly dissipate with time. I hope that by setting down what little I know in writing I do no injustice to either my parents or anyone still living. Many accusations were made, but my intention is to write only from that I know.



Mum and Dad in the "top garden"

This is the best picture I can find of my Dad and Mum in later life. But let's go back a bit. I wrote my post "Ginty" to help set the scene for who Dad was but another important ingredient would have been the war. He spoke very little about his war experiences to us children so about all I know was that he was posted in North Africa somewhere and drove an ambulance. But one does not spend several war-time years in the army without it having a profound affect.

Dad is on the left

Dad is on the right

'Clandon', 10 Weir Gardens, Rayleigh

I am unsure of how Dad and Mum met but it was doubtless during leave in those years. Here they are, just married, with granddad on Dad's right and Mary on Mum's far right.


Probably granddad was involved in the acquisition of our home, 16 Broad Street. Dad had to do a lot of work on it to make it habitable as you can see from this photo.

The dining room 16 Broad Street, before renovation

The house had at one time been part of the George Inn - so parts of it were very old. There is a Tudor brick floor under the floorboards in the front room and there is a cellar which my father said still smelled of beer.

Some history about our house - to read the text click to enlarge.


After Dad died the house was sold and, together with the adjoining property, it became Alresford County Library.  The following picture is what it now looks like - they have divided the windows into badly proportioned "Georgian" panes but otherwise it looks much as it did in the past. When I see this picture there is a choking feeling and I recall " 'Yes' he said dully... 'That is my world.' It was the bleakest moment in all his travels" (Out of the Silent Planet, Lewis).



My mother's father 'granddad' was the Crockford in "Smith & Crockford". When he died my parents took over the business and gradually changed it from a fully fledged building contractors and funeral directors to a building and DIY supplier, although my Dad continued to employ a few men for small building jobs.



Smith & Crockford premises before I was born

As I remember it - taken from my bedroom window

The workshop housed separate thicknesser and overhand planer machines, each belt driven by a common underfloor shaft which in turn was driven originally by a gas engine but later superseded by an electric motor. The belts were poorly protected from human contact and I loved to watch them in motion - it amazed me how they managed to stay on their pulleys whilst thrashing about.

Wikipedia

Whilst Mum and Dad ran the business together they kept their finances separate. This had significant implications later on for us children.

I have already explained how we first went to the Congregational Church in Pound Hill but later changed allegiance to New Farm Chapel. Here Dad was a deacon which basically meant that his service to the church in practical matters was recognised. He was also the church organist. The organ was his own but given or lent to the church. Even in its day it was (to my eyes) hideous, and it didn't sound much better compared with the real thing. It sounded... well like an electronic organ.

Bird electronic organ

Internally it comprised 12 separate master oscillators for the 12 semitones in the scale, each driving neon divider circuits to give the octaves. These would produce saw-tooth waves which, being rich in both odd and even harmonics, could be filtered in various ways to give the different 'stops' or voices. Oh, and how I hate those "contemporary" legs!

He would also preach, but never (in my memory) at New Farm. "A prophet is not without honour, save in his own country, and in his own house." There were several non-denominational churches in the locality whose congregations were so small that I suppose they relied completely on visiting preachers. Generally we all (Mum and Margaret) accompanied Dad on these jaunts. I remember on one occasion putting a half-crown in the collection - that was a LOT of money for me. A proportion of the collection would be given to the preacher to defray his travelling costs and I am reminded of a friend who more recently told a similar story - in the story the boy told his father afterwards - "if we had put more in we would have got more out!".

The only sermon I have any recollection of Dad preaching was on Psalms 107 where he identified the four classes of people there, who each come to their wits end, as people with various modern-day ailments.

In my post The Railway Room I observed that my father rarely lectured me. His input into my life was by his actions and occasional one-liners. He had some interesting sayings, doubtless none of them original, like:
  • when I told him my teacher had said "there's no such word as can't" he answered "you try telling them to light a bar of soap with a match";
  • he often noted that "there are always two ways of killing a pig";
  • he suggested that I should not mind appearing to be less intelligent than I thought I was, before my peers, because that way I would end up learning more;
  • " 'I see' - as the blind man said";
  • "the muscles of his brawny are were strong as onions" which might have been me mishearing this for Longfellow, or more likely was my Dad being foolish, or it might have been a quote;
  • "You thought?...  you know what Thought did? - he thought he had hung himself and he had!"
He was a great fan of Tintin and also of Colonel Pewter with his amazing hold-all, both which ran as newspaper strips at that time, and I wonder if the "onions" came from one of these?

Talking of quotes, my father was also a great fan of C. S. Lewis and thus introduced me to the Narnia stories and his Sci-Fi trilogy which became an integral part of my education and the mutual understanding that existed between my father and us children. In his set of Narnia books he annotated in the margin the various scriptural references implied - is is quite amazing how many there are.

Music was another important part of my childhood. None of us were maestros but we enjoyed listening to and making music. At school I played flute (poorly) in the orchestra, sang in the choir and on one occasion even sang Handel's "Where e're you walk" solo in a school concert. At home I messed on the piano or played flute whilst my father played the piano. I also sang in the church choir. I saved up and purchased a Fidelity reel-to-reel tape recorder and recorded music that I liked and so discovered Bruckner, entirely by accident, as related in my page on Music.

My mother did not share the same degree of interest in Lewis or in music, and was not at all interested in railways. I think my mother was the more pragmatic, and my father the more romantic of the two. This made my mother's faith much more "matter of fact" and simple - she was happy to accept the gospel story at face value and did not question. Things that did not fit into her religious views were simply marked thus and so her world was gloriously and simply polarized. Whereas my father would try to embrace all into his Christian understanding and thus was drawn by authors such as Erich von Daniken and films such as 2001.

I cannot recall that either of my parents gave me any sex education. I think my mother might have tried: I remember her asking me if I had observed animals mounting each other - I had not - animals in the abstract (as in zoos or nature films) have never interested me - and I think she gave up at that point.  I think they thought the school would do the deed, but our biology master got out of it by observing that doubtless all of us already knew all there was to know. Which actually was far from the truth for myself. There was, of course, no internet back then and I did not socialise with the sort of boys that talked of nothing else. True I picked up a bit from books. I found the best teacher in this regard is mother nature - although I do remember struggling with the question, apparently not discussed in the books, of which way up should the woman be? I hasten to add that good old mother nature told me all I needed to know when I needed to know it, and I have four children as testimony to this solemn fact.

My parents spent quality time with us children - they regarded us as valid people. Such regard was lacking at Rayleigh and that is why, I suppose, my sister and I hated it so much there. From this I have learnt to always treat even the youngest child with as much respect as any adult - indeed they deserve more. We often went "out" on Saturdays or Sunday afternoon, and then of course there was the annual holiday often to the West Country. Favourite spots included Abbotstone Down and The Heath, Petersfield as these rather mouldy pictures show:

Abbotstone Down 1963

The Heath, Petersfield

In the first picture my two sisters are on the left. I am in PSS uniform and the shorts mean it was during my first year. I have no idea who the girl on the right is. In both pictures I am the focal point which must say something. To walk the entire perimeter of the Heath was such an adventure, such a long way! Whilst travelling to these places Mum might spin us tales of the sisters Princess Isabelle and Princess Dizzibelle and of Lord Longnose. These are happy memories.

We all looked forward to the annual holiday. Some children grow out of enjoying their parent's holidays but I never did - even into college days. A particular favourite location was Daymer Bay. Here was good sandcastle sand, good swimming, a rocky headland to explore to the north and sand-dunes and a decent hillock (Brea Hill) to climb to the south. In between their is an unexpected tiny Anglican church with an interesting history which could count as one of my Enchanted places. And within easy driving distance the village of Rock where a local bakery made real and large Cornish Pasties such as can only be found in Cornwall.  And don't start me on clotted cream...



St Enodoc's Church, Daymer Bay

My parents were quite protective, especially when we were very young. There were things we were not allowed to do, games we were not allowed to play on Sundays. "Pop" music was not allowed at any any time, and there no TV in my early days. The latter made things difficult at school - "did you watch so-and-so last night?"... It was not until I was in mid teens that my parents finally invested in a TV. Colour was in its infancy then, very expensive and in constant need of maintenance, so ours was B&W.  My Dad and I regularly watched the original Star Trek, Tomorrow's World and - does anyone remember The Goodies?

My father allowed me the use of a large shed in the top garden as my workshop. Here I amassed and dissected old valve radios, the occasional TV, gramophones and such like. I made some stuff too: an oscilloscope, a pen plotter, an audio generator, and of course the signalling system for The Railway Room. And there was that balanced pentode amplifier I mentioned before.  Here I was left undisturbed to invent to my heart's content. All this stood me in good stead in my interviews for Oxford and, later, for the BBC Research Dept.

In this blog I have made very little reference as yet to my younger sister Heather. This is mainly because she was seven years my younger and so simply does not come into most of the stories, or was too young at the time to count. Before she was born my parents broke the news to us children by telling us that we were going to have something very exciting - my mind went - TV, new car, washing machine... and I was rather disappointed when I found out is was a baby.

-----ooOoo-----


My father loved and cared for us children, and must have loved me as only a father can his only son, much more than I ever realised at the time. He had principles but generally he could be reasoned with - except regarding his views on religion. He enjoyed life and wanted us children to enjoy life too. We always assumed that we were one happy family and I never suspected that there were cracks beneath the surface.

Years passed, I grew up, left home, settled in Sutton, Surrey and got myself a wife. For a while we persisted the Bailey tradition of visiting at Christmas. And then Alison and I dropped out of society: we sold our house and joined a community, we home schooled our children and I gave in my notice to the BBC and started odd-jobbing building work: in short we trampled over all that my parents had invested in me. Perhaps all this was contributory to my father's behaviour in later life?  I have a copy of a typewritten letter from both mum and dad at that time warning me of the possible dangers I was laying myself open to, and yet conceding that "a man has to do what a man has to do...".

From about this time I sensed that not all was well between my parents. I have always been somewhat naive, intentionally so: if people can't be bothered to tell me stuff why should I dig? Looking back I now see that my father had a weakness which is, I regret, common among men. He did not consider too carefully the consequences of his emotions. Men will often hardly admit to being emotional let alone correctly manage it. He became infatuated with another woman who I will call X. I doubt (but others did not) that it was ever overtly sexual. But for a man any relationship will become sexual given half a chance. I think that Dad kidded himself that the relationship was "platonic". After all X was married. But my mother sensed the problem immediately and instantly became jealous. Women are like that. However life, business, church and respectability carried on as it must, but not without some tension in the air.

I like to think that I am happily married, but it is also true that my relationship with Alison is different now to how it was when we were first married. It has matured - but this, perhaps, is a euphemism. Certainly we have changed: our bodies are older, our interests - never very compatible - have become more individual. I thank God that we still love each other and have a common faith in God to bind us together, but what we now mean by 'love' is rather more like Golde's caricature

Do I love him?

For twenty-five years I've lived with him
Fought him, starved with him
Twenty-five years my bed is his
If that's not love, what is?


than like the strong, sensual feeling we first felt for each other. It think it was because of this gradual and natural aging process that dad and mum managed the tension as "part of the package". Or maybe they didn't manage it too well - I do not really know because we only saw them on visits and anyone can behave for a short time.

My mother passed away, for her sake I hope it was in her sleep, while my father had gone to the "top garden" for a smoke - it must have been a horrible shock to him on his return to the house. Looking back, I want to be with him to share his hurt but I was far away in London playing at being radical Christians.  I consider it was the mercy of God that this happened before our move to Northern Ireland for she was hurt enough by our community venture in London.

In the years that followed my father had health issues connected with his diabetes and after a stay in hospital, to help him convalesce, he was invited to stay with X and her husband Y. This was like heaven to him. Others built fantasies on this move - I have no wish to fantasize but the arrangement was a concern to us children. Moreover it seemed to us that X was influencing not only Dad's emotions but also his pocket. He interpreted our concern as enmity. By this time Alison and I were entrenched in the restrictive community in Northern Ireland (about which I suppose I will blog sometime) and so could rarely travel. On one occasion I did manage to visit Dad at X and Y's place. It seemed to me that walking up their drive, knocking on their door and introducing myself was like entering enemy territory. I had a good by short time with Dad though and, on leaving, he gave me some money as a gift but I sensed X's disapproval at this. Which all could have been my imagination.

I have a letter from my father dated July 1984 signed


in which he tells me that he had sold Smith & Crockford and also talks about the sale of "the allotments" along Station Road, formerly my mother's, to Abbey Homes who named one of the homes in our honour, and apparently another in honour of my mother's family.



My father died of... well, diabetes related complications? - horror, as I search my memory I find that I do not know the details of how and why - was I so far removed from my father at this stage? I am horrified to realise how little I must have cared. To say I could not have done otherwise (which has some truth given my circumstances) is no excuse. Others would have found a way.

I have said that my parents kept their finances separate: in particular granddad had passed on a number of tenanted properties to my mother and, when she died, she willed that her estate should be held in trust for us children until my father died and that any income in the meantime should go to him. And so it was that we received that much when my father died, but the majority of his estate (including the family home 16 Broad Street and the proceeds of the business Smith & Crockford) went elsewhere.


He did will his "chattels" to us children, but by the time we got to them there were not many left. I say all of this as a statement of fact and I am not bitter. On a much later visit I was informed that the vase standing in the window of a house in Alresford, pictured below, was once my mother's although (male that I am) I do not particularly remember it.  The picture is indistinct because the vase is behind a net curtain and, of course, the the photograph was taken from the street.



It is notable, and an enduring sign to me of his love for me, that he left "the contents of his workshop" to me. Oh, how I would love to be able to go back in time and have kept more of his stuff, but at the time it was not feasible to transport much to Ireland so I sold or gave away most of it. There was a battery powered electric drill (not a good one, and long since given up the ghost) that I decided to keep. Y was present, indeed had to be because he had the keys, and it seemed to me that he would have taken this had I not been almost objectionable about it. Such was the tension. Perhaps this also was my imagination. But my father's will was not. Some said we children should have contested it but I wanted none of that. If that is what my father wanted, that was that. And in a way I understood, and do understand, what he did. I know I am weak enough to have done the same in similar circumstances. I hope not. He idolised X.

The parish register records that my father was buried in the same grave as his wife according to his wish.

BAILEY EDWARD BENJAMIN died 1987-11-06 age 66, plot EX/S, grave 96